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Read, Listen, Watch

“The more prepared the parents were about the issues they might face after adoption, the better able they were to process the post-adoption experience.” – Foli, K. and Thompson, JR. (2004), The Post Adoption Blues, Rodale, USA.

We encourage you throughout the process and post adoption to explore as many resources as you can about the challenges and impacts of adoption. This section of our website is curated to provide a diverse range of books, podcasts, shows and resources that we hope will inspire, encourage and challenge you. Many of our adoptive parents and social workers have found the following resources useful and we are always looking for new recommendations. We update this page regularly and if you notice that we’ve missed a great book you’ve read or intriguing podcast you’ve listened to about adoption then please let us know: contact@adopt4vvc.org 

CoramBAAF also have a comprehensive list of books and resources for adopters and children. Find out more by visiting their website.

Guides and Books for Adults 

  •  No Matter What – Sally Donovan
     ‘No Matter What’ is a first-hand account of the adoption process written by an adoptive mother. Sally tells the story of her and her husband Rob and their journey from a diagnosis of infertility to their decision to adopt to post adoption. She talks honestly about the couple’s difficulties living with infertility, making the decision to adopt and the process of adoption. An easy going, heartfelt read that gives an insight into the process of adoption and attachment issues. 
  •  What to expect when you’re adopting – Dr Ian Palmer 
     What to expect when you are adopting is a non-fiction guide that explains the realities of adopting and what to expect at each stage. The book covers a range of topics and is good for reference at different points in the adoption process. 
  •  A Guide for Gay Dads – Stonewall 

     A Guide for Gay Dads is a great resource, written by Stonewall for male couples and gay single men who are looking into the routes to becoming a dad. The guide covers the range of options available including adoption. It also contains stories from dads about a range of topics and there is advice and guidance covering specific concerns and questions gay males may have. You can read the guide for free: A Guide for Gay Dads

  • Related by Adoption – Heidi Argent
    Related by adoption is a handbook for family members who become related to children through adoption e.g. grandparents, aunts, uncles etc. Adoption effects the whole family and different members might have different questions specific to the role that they will play in the child / children’s life. This handbook is a good guide for relatives and can be used to inform and create discussion around modern adoption within your family.   
  •  Flying Solo - Julia Wise

    Flying Solo is a first-hand account of adoption from an adoptive mother’s perspective. Throughout the book Julia shares her experiences of change from being a career focused, single women to becoming an adoptive, single parent.

    She talks about the reality of the highs and lows of adopting, dealing with society’s attitudes towards single parenting, adopting her son and how adopting changed every aspect of her life. The book is an open, honest and thought provoking read for anyone considering adopting. 

  • Meant to be - Lisa Faulkner

    Lisa Faulkner, English actress, presenter and winner of 2010 Celebrity Masterchef, has written a book called ‘Meant to be’. Lisa’s story weaves a relatable and honest account of her journey from trying to conceive, to fertility treatment, to considering surrogacy, to starting and completing the adoption process. Throughout the book Lisa speaks candidly about her relationships with her (now ex) husband, friends and family members and the personal journey she took towards considering adopting. Lisa’s daughter is now a teenager and Lisa is able to reflect about her experiences as well as looking towards the future.

    Lisa also spoke about her journey on This Morning: Lisa Faulkner This Morning 

  • My name is Why – Lemn Sissay
    Lemn Sissay MBE, author, poet and broadcaster has written a memoir reflecting his experiences of the care system in the UK in the 1960’s – 1980’s as a child and young person and how these experiences have shaped his outlook and adult life.It should be noted that significant reform has happened across social services and society since Lemn’s childhood experiences however this book gives intimate insight into the care system at that time and the intrinsic need of all people to understand their identity, to feel part of a family and receive unlimited love, care and stability
  • How I Met My Son – Rosalind Powell 

    How I met my son is an easily accessible and honest, personal account of adoption written by Journalist, Rosalind Powell. Throughout the book Rosalind weaves together the story of why and how she and her partner, Harry’s adopted their son Gabriel and their ongoing journey whilst, at the same time, threading in stories of people who she has interviewed who have also adopted or are adopted themselves. 

    In the book she highlights their experiences as a couple with fertility treatment, the adoption process, matching and settling in and their ongoing life as a family. She talks about the positive outcomes that they have seen alongside the challenges and covers, in detail their experience of introduction to Gabriel including their ongoing relationship with his foster carers. At the end of the book she also includes Gabriel’s comments about his own adoption bringing the narrative together with a very personal touch.  

  • The A-Z of Therapeutic Parenting – Sarah Naish
    The A-Z of Therapeutic Parenting is an accessible and practical yet comprehensive guide to behaviour and the fundamentals of therapeutic parenting. Sarah, herself an adoptive parent explores solution focused approaches to a variety of challenges that people caring for children who have had adverse life experiences may face and the underlying reasons that children may be responding in the ways that they are. The guide is relevant to adopter’s foster carers, kinship carers and professionals alike.
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Podcasts for Adults 

  • Truth be Told: Adoption Stories - National Adoption Service 

    Truth be Told: Adoption Stories is a heart-warming series, created by the National Adoption Service, which follows the journey of ten adopters from across Wales. Prior to featuring in the podcast they’d never met before, but straight away it is like listening to old friends talk; they laugh together, they cry together. Throughout the series they share their first-hand experiences of adoption; from their first steps, all the way through to post-adoption support. Truth be told: Adoption stories is the first, pan-Wales adoption podcast from the National Adoption Service, and it is available in both Welsh and English. The series is available via Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Google Podcasts, Stitcher and the AdoptCymru website.

  •  The Adoption – BBC Radio 4
    The Adoption is a series of seventeen podcasts from the BBC. It follows the real life story of Bethany and Ben’s adoption over nineteen months. The series highlights the UK adoption process through the eyes of those affected including the children, birth parents, extended family, social workers, foster parents and adoptive parents. Each episode is between ten and fifteen minutes long. You can find the whole series on BBC Radio 4 or on the Podcast App on iOS. 
  • Not Another Mummy Podcast – Series 4, 10 September 2019
    Partnering with F&F at Tesco, Alison Perry of ‘Not Another Mummy Podcast’ interviews Tom Cox, adoptive dad to Kai and adoption advocate who documents his family life on Instagram. Alison and Tom discuss the process, the matching process, panels, meeting birth parents, the role of foster carers, letterbox contact, introductions and placement and settling in. You can find this episode in Series 4 on the podcast app (release date 10th September 2019).
  • You, Me and Lots and Lots of Love, with Leon Wenham - Black Boy Joy
    Black Boy Joy have created a podcast with Leon Wenham, a single, black, gay adoptive father and adoption advocate. During the podcast, Leon shares his experience of the triumphs and challenges of parenting and about writing his debut children's book, ‘You, Me and Lots of Love’: Black Boy Joy Podcast

 

Youtube for Adults 

  • Vale, Valleys and Cardiff 
     Our Youtube channel is the place where we share the stories of our adopters, our news and any other visual resources that we create: Vale, Valleys and Cardiff Youtube
  • Coram 
     Coram / Coran Baff are a charity who work with adoptive parents and adopted children as well as professionals. Their Youtube channel highlights some of the work that they do including working with adopted children and young adults and people who are looking to adopt: Coram Youtube 
  • Adoption UK
     Adoption UK are a charity who work with adoptive parents and adopted children. Their Youtube channel includes some interesting interviews from BBC’s The One Show: Adoption UK Youtube 
  • An Adoption Story - Jillian Lauren, TEDxChapmanU

    Jillian Lauren is an American adoptive mother who tell her adoption story from her perspective as both an adoptive mother and an adoptive person. She reflects on family, identity and love during her TEDxChapmanU Talk: An Adoption Story

  • Two Mums - Lynne Elvins, TEDxBristol
    Lynne and her partner Emma, became the first gay couple to be approved for adoption in Bristol, UK in 2004. Lynne shares their story of adopting their son Steven during her TEDxBristol talk: Two Mums
  • Find me a Family - Available on YouTube (originally produced by the BBC)

    A two part series looking at the lives of  eleven children in Northern Ireland. The care system in Northern Ireland is slightly different Wales however the documentary explains some of the early life experiences and some of the reasons why children are planned for adoption. The documentary also covers a range of different adoption topics including contact with birth family and adoptive families with children already living with them.

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  • How childhood trauma affects health across a lifetime - Nadine Burke Harris
     Paediatrician and Founder and CEO of The Center for Youth Wellness (USA organisation), Nadine Burke Harris unpacks, through her TEDMED Talk ‘How childhood trauma affects health across a lifetime’ how repeated exposure to abuse, neglect, care givers / parents struggling with mental health and / or care givers / parents substance abuse issues and the toxic stress caused by these adverse childhood experiences has real, tangible effects on the brain and health outcomes for children and adults: How childhood trauma affects health across a lifetime
  • What adopted children think you should know - After Adoption
    What adopted children think you should know is an animation which was produced by adopted children and young people and After Adoption (no longer an operational organisation) explaining adoption from the point of view of people who are adopted: What adopted children think you should know

 

Films and Series for Adults

  • ReMoved 

    ReMoved is a short film following the emotional journey of a nine-year old girl, Zoe who has to leave her birth home and is placed in foster care system (USA). In the sequel ‘Remember My Story’ Zoe deals with the court system, foster home life, her birth mom's attempts at getting her life together, the loss of her brother and her future. Although American fostering and adoption is often very different to the UK system these films highlight some of the emotional upheaval faced by children who have entered the care system. The films explore how these experiences can impact children’s behaviour and understanding of the world around them and why therapeutic parenting and support are so important: ReMoved Series 

  • Instant Family
    Instant Family is American comedy film starring Mark Wahlberg and Rose Byrne as married couple Pete and Ellie Wagner who foster and subsequently adopt three children. Director, Sean Anders, is an adoptive father himself and wrote the storyline based on some of his own families experiences. The film highlights the need for foster and adoptive parents internationally. Although the UK adoption process differs from American adoption the film is fantastic for those looking to build an understanding of the positives of fostering and adopting alongside the realities of the struggles of adapting to family life together.
  • Lion
    Lion is a 2016 biographical film based on the non-fiction book ‘A Long Way Home’ written by Saroo Brierley. The film follows the story of Saroo, a five-year-old boy who gets separated from his brother on the streets of Calcutta. Saroo ends up, hundreds of miles from home in a children’s home and subsequently gets adopted by a couple who live in Australia. The film follows Saroo’s journey to Australia; settling into a new family and culture. Saroo’s adoptive parents go on adopt another child whose behaviour is massively impacted by trauma and the film explores how this further impacts the family dynamics. In his 20’s Saroo sets out to find his mum and brother and eventually find his hometown. The film highlights loss, grief, trauma, behaviour, family, love, reconciliation and the fundamental need of a person to understand their life story.  
  • Superkids: Breaking away from care - Channel 4 

    Lemn Sissay MBE, author, poet and broadcaster has produced a one-off programme with Channel 4, SuperKids: Breaking away from care. Lemn Sissay himself spent his childhood and teenage years in foster care and care homes and is now an advocate for people speaking out about their experiences of care. During the programme Lemn Sissay works with young people in the care of Coventry Council to explore and express their experiences of being in care through performance. The programme makes clear the intrinsic need of all young people in care for love, family and stability as well as highlighting the importance of these experiences being listened to and learnt from in ongoing and future decision making. You can find the programme on Channel 4: Superkids: Breaking Away from Care

  • Me, my brother and our balls - BBC iPlayer

    “In the UK male infertility now accounts for 50% of infertility. As many as two to three million men in the UK could have a fertility problem which typically only becomes apparent when men want to start a family." 

    From our daily life working with people seeking to have a family, we know that male reproductive health is just as important as that of females and it plays a vital role in fertility. Sadly, in UK culture male fertility is still, often overlooked or viewed as a taboo topic. To combat this Love Island star, Chris Hughes and his brother Ben have teamed up with the BBC to create a documentary highlighting the importance of exploring and understanding male reproductive health and fertility. Their hope is that the documentary will encourage people to speak more openly these topics with others, promote learning about male reproductive health and to encourage men to seek support earlier than they may otherwise have done: Me, my brother and our balls

  • Closure and other short documentaries – Anglea Tucker 

    Angela and her husband, Bryan never intended to create a feature length documentary about Angela’s search for her birth family but from their personal experience and the footage they had, they felt it could be an educational piece for the public. Closure was picked up for digital streaming services Hulu (2014), Netflix (2015-2017) and Amazon Prime (2016-2020).

    Angela also has a YouTube channel which she uses to upload short documentaries and podcasts to advocate for and elevate the experiences of herself and other people who are adopted. 

 

Blogs and Vlogs / Advocates and Influencers for Adults 

  •  The Unlikely Dad - Tom Cox

    Tom is adoptive dad to Kai. With beautiful photography, lots of posts about adoption, day to day life being a dad and some collab posts: The Unlikely Dad. He was also interviewed by Alison Perry, Not Another Mummy Podcast, Series 4 on 10 September 2019. Available on the podcast app.

  • Daddy and Dad - Jamie and Tom
    Daddy and dad is a blog by Jamie and Tom who are daddy and dad to Lyall and Richard. Jamie and Tom blogged the process of adoption and now talk about their day to day life as dads. There is also a section of the website dedicated to stories from other LGBT+ parents: Daddy and Dad 
  • Aimee Vlog - Aimee
    Aimee is an adoptive mother who vlogs about her experiences of fostering and adopting two children in the UK system. She talks about the process of adoption, contact with birth parents and the celebration day amongst general mum life.
  • You, Me and Lots and Lots of Love - Leon Wenham

    Leon Wenham is a single, black, gay adoptive father and adoption advocate. He has set up an online group for single, black, gay dads and in 2020 he wrote his debut children’s book, ‘Lots and Lots of Love’. He has also recorded a podcast episode with Black Boy Joy where he shares in more detail his experiences of adopting and being a parent.

  • Mumaduke Designs

    Mumaduke Designs was created by an adoptive mum around a year after she adopted her son. At the time she was trying to find a suitable card for letterbox contact and she eventually decided to go home and make her own. Since then she has created a shop specialising in items that celebrate adoption and a blog and social media presence where she talks about her experiences of being a parent through adoption. 

  • Rosemary Lucas

    Author and adoptive mum, Rosemary Lucas uses her blog and social media presence to talk about her experiences of being a parent through adoption.

    Rosemary’s debut, rhyming children’s book, The Family Fairies explains the adoption process in a fun and accessible way with colourful illustrations and really makes the story of adopting come to life. The book is based on Rosemary’s own adoption journey and tells the story of a mummy and a daddy who want to have a family and ask for the help of two ‘Family Fairies’ aka two social workers. Rosemary hopes this book will be the start of a series of books which will help children and adults alike understand adoption in a clearer and more vivid way and spark wider interest in adopting as a pathway to starting or extending a family. 

  • Jeena Wilder 

    Haitian-American mom, Jenna Wilder documents her and her husband, Drue’s experiences as parents to both adopted and birth children. She highlights their family’s experiences of interracial marriage, transracial adoption, home-schooling, parenting, the role her faith in her life and motherhood. 

  • The Adopted Life - Angela Tucker 

    American, Transracial Adoptee, Angela Tucker is a public speaker, educator, mentor and consultant. She uses her voice, social media presence, YouTube channel (containing short documentaries and podcasts) and website to advocate for and elevate the experiences of herself and other people who are adopted. 

    Angela and her husband, Bryan never intended to create a feature length documentary about Angela’s search for her birth family but from their personal experience and the footage they had, they felt it could be an educational piece for the public. Closure was picked up for digital streaming services Hulu (2014), Netflix (2015-2017) and Amazon Prime (2016-2020).

 

Useful Websites for Adults

  • National Adoption Service for Wales (NAS Cymru)

    Promotes and supports best practice in adoption across Wales.

  • British Association of Adoption and Fostering

    National organisation providing information and training.

  • Adoption UK 

    Adoption UK is a charity that provides support, community and advocacy for all those parenting or supporting children who cannot live with their birth parents. They also run a hotline which can be accessed by prospective adopters which is available Monday – Friday, 10am - 2.30pm and have information that they can send out via email request.

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  • After Adoption 

    Support for adopted people and families.

  • New Family Social 

    New Family Social is the only LGBT+ adoption and fostering charity in the UK. They support LGBT+ adoptive and fostering families by offering resources and advice. 

    As a member agency of New Family Social our adopters are not only supported by our team but can also access the resources and expertise of New Family Social. 

     

  • UK Government

    UK Government have a section of their website dedicated to adoption. It covers topics such as domestic and overseas adoption, step parent adoption and information about the legalities and assessment process.

  • Family Information Service

    Each local authority in Wales has a Family Information Service (FIS). FIS provide free, impartial help, support, advice and information for families and carers about local services and a range of family topics. 

    They can provide information and support such as: 

    • Childcare including the 30 Hour Childcare Offer for Wales
    • Activities, leisure services and groups for children and young people
    • Groups and services for new parents
    • Family support services
    • Support for children with disabilities or additional needs 
    • Newsletters and regular information bulletins
    • Health and well-being information
    • Signposting to useful information and Welsh Government Programmes

    FIS also arrange and run free events and sessions with parents in schools and the community and have holiday activity programmes.

    The contact details for your local authority’s FIS can be accessed by selecting the area of Wales where you live on their website: Family Information Service 

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    Information about The Childcare Offer for Wales for each of our local authorities:

     

  • Welsh Government 

    Welsh Government have a section of their website dedicated to parenting advice: Parenting. Give it time. The site provides resources, media and case-studies to support parents to ‘encourage positive behaviour, boost your child’s confidence and support their development’.

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Information for adults who are blind or partially sighted

  •  Vale, Valleys and Cardiff 

    We have experience assessing couples who are blind and partially sighted and can offer advice and support on the phone or via email. Some of our adopters and prospective adopters have recommended the following information and links for people who are interested in finding out more about parenting as someone who is blind or partially sighted or caring for a child who is blind or partially sighted.

     If you find any further information around this topic that you think could be useful to our parents please forward it to us. We are always looking to expand our resources and love a good recommendation:

  •  RNIB Cymru
    RNIB Cymru (Royal National Institute of Blind People, Wales) is Wales’ largest sight loss organisation. RNIB provide a wide range of services and support to blind and partially sighted people well as campaigning for service improvements and to prevent avoidable sight loss. RNIB Cymru can provide advice and support on looking after a child as a parent with sight loss, as well as connect you with support groups and local events for families depending on where you live. 
    RNIB Cymru, Jones Court, Womanby Street, Cardiff, CF10 1BR
    RNIB have a members group called RNIB Connect which is free to join: RNIB Connect.
    For local services you can use the RNIB's Sightline Directory which is a directory of organisations for people with sight loss: RNIB Sightline Directory.
    Our adopters advise us that if you contact RNIB directly they will offer you specific support and advice and can send audio copies of information where required. 
  • Blind Mums Connect 

    Blind Mums Connect is a group set up by visually impaired mums and dads from all over the UK. To find out more you can visit: Blind Mums Connect or contact them on social media: @blindmums. This group was recommended by RNIB to one of our adopters.

    Blind Mums Connect have collaborated with RNIB to create a video called ‘What is being a blind mum really like?’ This video explores the experiences of three mums, Madleen, Hetal and Rachel who are blind mums. You can find it here: What is being a blind mum really like?

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Information for adults who have a faith / religion / heritage / cultural observances

  • Faith, Religion, Heritage and Cultural Observances 
    Faith, cultural observances, religion, heritage, identity, race and culture are component parts of a person’s life and identity and we encourage people to share these with us as they partake in the adoption process. 
    We are inclusive and we don’t discriminate based on ethnicity, age, disability, faith, sexuality, gender identity or relationship status. Our team take responsibility to continually engage with and challenge themselves in learning more about racism, discrimination (of any kind), cultural observances, traditions and faiths. 
    We pledge to continue to highlight and celebrate all types of family and continue to actively learn more about cultures and identities and challenge ourselves to make sure we are anti-racist and non-discriminatory in all we do. We have pledged with Zero Racism Wales to support for a zero-tolerance approach to racism in Wales. 
    We are always looking to expand our resources so, if you know of any helpful resources that could be included in this section please get in touch.

 

Christianity

  • Home for Good 

    Home for Good is a UK, faith sensitive charity that campaigns to build awareness of adoption and fostering within the Christian community. Home for Good work within the broad sphere of adoption and fostering and within the Christian community to highlight UK fostering and adoption from a Christian perspective. They also take part in the National Adoption Steering Group (England).

    Home for Good coordinates a network of area workers, adopters, foster carers and professionals to provide a network to support for parents, families, foster carers, professionals and those exploring adoption and fostering. They work with local churches and organisations to raise awareness of adoption and fostering within the wider Christian community. Home for Good is encourage churches and organisations to host ‘Adoption Sundays’ to raise awareness and they also host a centrally located, conference once a year for adopters, foster cares

    Krish Kandiah, Chair of the Adoption and Special Guardianship Leadership Board (England) and the previous founder and CEO of Home for Good is the also the author of ‘Home for Good’ a book which talks about adoption from his own personal experience.

     

 

Islam

  • My Adoption  Family / My Foster Family

    My Adoption Family / My Foster Family is an independent, faith sensitive organisation who work within the broad sphere of adoption and fostering and within the Muslim community to highlight UK fostering and adoption from an Islamic perspective.

    Shadim Hussain headed up the Muslim Fostering Project on behalf of Mercy Mission in 2017. The success of this project led Shadim to become the CEO of My Adoption Family / My Foster Family. Shadim is also part of the National Adoption Steering Group (England) and an advisor at the Bradford Foundation Trust.

    The organisation provides support and cultural competency for all adopters, foster carers and professionals who are involved in the care of Muslim children and children of Muslim heritage in the UK. They provide training, resources, workshops, webinars and recruitment in both sectors and they have developed an advisory group of Shaikh’s, professionals, foster carers and adopters who form a network to provide tailored support and advice.

    They also extend opportunities for the wider Muslim community to engage with fostering and adoption including initiatives such as: ‘Foster Friday’ (in partnership with around two hundred Mosques) and ‘Ramadan Boxes’ which are provided for Muslim and Muslim heritage children living in care across the UK.

    Shadim Hussain was involved in a broadcast with Sheikh Dr Sajid Umar and an adopter, Sagheer to discuss UK fostering and adoption from an Islamic perspective: Fostering - A Forgotten Sunnah

 

Books for Children / Young People 

We would encourage adults to read these stories before sharing them with their children due to the sensitive nature of the topics discussed. The content may not be suitable for every child and therefore each book should be considered based on the individual child’s emotional capacity, life-experiences and understanding / ability to cope with the sensitive topics continued. Careful planning is often required for adoptive children. 

  • Collecting the Diamonds - Sian Booth and Siobian Rhodes
    Collecting the Diamonds is a beautifully crafted book, created by adopted sisters, Sian and Siobian. The story follows Nua and her adoptive parents, Toni and Jordan as they encounter some of the typical challenges associated with children who have experienced trauma.

    The book encourages children and their caregivers to embrace the concept of ‘collecting the diamonds’. These ‘diamonds’ are special moments that they have shared together as a family, which they can recall to encourage themselves through any new challenges they may face.  

    There is an animated version of the book available on YouTube: Collecting the Diamonds

  • Meesha Makes Friends - Tom Percival
    Meesha Makes Friends is a warm, affectionate and beautifully illustrated book which follows the story of Meesha, a creative child who is finding it difficult to make friends. The book is perfect for helping children to navigate social situations and build positive attachments / relationships with others. 
  • Daddy, Papa and Me / Mommy, Mama and Me - Lesléa Newman
    Both of these beautifully illustrated, rhyming board book follows a toddler spending the day with their parents. These books highlight the normalities of family life in a fun and engaging way for young children. 
  • Two Dads / Two Mums - Carolyn Roberson 
    Both of these books follow the first-hand thoughts of a child with LGBT+ parents. The books explore everyday life for a child and highlights the normalities of family life in a fun and engaging way for children. 
  •  The Teazlers’ Baby Bunny – Susan Bagnall
     ‘The Teazlers’ Baby Bunny’ tells the story of the preparation and the time leading up to the arrival of a baby bunny to the Teazler’ family. The aim of the book is to familiarise children with the idea of adoption. The book comes with a handy guide for parents which explains how to use the book to create discussion around adoption. The book is aimed at children aged two years+. 
  • The Most Precious Present in the World – Becky Edwards 
     In ‘The Most Precious Present in the World’ Mia, an adopted child, is feeling confused and sad because she doesn’t look like her mum and dad. Throughout the book Mia’s mum explains to her that her birth mum and dad gave her gifts that make her look like them but that her birth parents gave her mum and dad the most precious gift in the world, which is her. This book is great to read with children to start discussions around identity. It can also help children feel reassured that they can speak about their life story and that they are loved and safe in their new family.  
  • A Safe Place for Rufus – Jill Seeney
    Rufus the cat moves in with a new family and has to learn how to overcome his fears and learn his new home is safe and permanent and the new family love him. This book helps children feel reassured that it’s okay to find change hard and it helps them to discover that just like Rufus they can find ways to get rid of their fears and feel safe. The book comes with a handy guide for parents which explains how to use the book to create discussion around adoption and feeling safe. The book is aimed at children aged three years+.
  • Nutmeg Gets Adopted – Judith Foxon
    Nutmeg Gets Adopted is the story of Nutmeg, a young squirrel and his family. Nutmeg’s birth family are unable to look after him and his siblings so Beth Badger has to find them a new family; first a foster family and then a forever family. The book is a great resource to start to talk to children about their life-story. The book gives the child an opportunity to ask why they had to leave home and any questions they have about why this happened and help them talk about their feelings about being adopted. The book comes with a guide which explains how to use the book to create discussion. This book is ideal for children who are waiting for an adoptive family, or who have recently been placed. The book is part of series of books that help adopted children to understand different topics that may affect them. 
  • Chester and Daisy Move On - Angela Lidster
    Chester and Daisy live with their birth bear family but when things start to go wrong they have to move to a new family. The story explains to children that sometimes birth parents can’t look after their little bears and that’s why they are placed with a new family. The book is helpful to explain to children the path they are taking / took to living with their new family. The book explains thoughts and feelings and looks at letterbox contact.     
  • And Tango Makes Three – Justin Richardson and Peter Parnell 
     ‘And Tango Makes Three’ explores same sex parents and adoption. Roy and Silo, two male penguins see all the other heterosexual penguins having babies and want to start a family of their own. The keeper brings them an egg so that they can have their own baby. 
  • The Family Fairies - Rosemary Lucas

    The Family Fairies is a rhyming children’s book written by one of our adopters, Rosemary Lucas. The book is based on Rosemary’s own adoption journey and tells the story of a mummy and a daddy who want to have a family and ask for the help of two ‘Family Fairies’ aka two social workers.

    Rosemary’s debut book is just one of the stories that she has created for her own adopted children to explain how their family was formed. The book explains the adoption process in a fun and accessible way with colourful illustrations and really makes the story of adopting come to life.

    Rosemary hopes this book will be the start of a series of books which will help children and adults alike understand adoption in a clearer and more vivid way and spark wider interest in adopting as a pathway to starting or extending a family. 

    The Family Fairies is self-published and available online.

  •  Y Boced Wag - Eurgain Haf

    Y Boced Wag, written by Eurgain Haf, is the first, original, Welsh language children’s book about adoption. 

    Eurgain, an adoptive mother herself, was inspired to create the story after her son came home from nursery school with a picture of a kangaroo who looked sad. She asked him why he thought the kangaroo looked downcast. He replied “because her pouch was empty”. Eurgain told him that they would find a way to put a smile on the kangaroo’s face and together we came up with the story.

    Y Boced Wag (The Empty Pouch) follows the story of Cadi the kangaroo as she goes in search of happiness, and to fill her empty pouch. Cadi sets off on a big adventure and meets lots of other animals along the way who want to help. She falls asleep under a tree, only to awaken the following morning to discover that a baby kangaroo has climbed into her pouch for shelter and warmth, and her wish has been granted.

    Eurgain uses the story to explain to her son what being adopted means, to explain to him the gap that he had filled in their family and the happiness that he has brought them. She hopes that by publishing the story it can be used to explain adoptive identify in a simple way to all children. 

    Y Boced Wag is published by Y Llofa and available at Welsh bookshops and online. 
  • The Blanket Bears – Samuel Langley-Swain
    The Blanket Bears follows the story of two little bears who need a forever family. The story tracks their journey from leaving their original home with the social worker, to living in foster care, to finally meeting and moving in with their forever family. The story explores the relationships the bears have with all these people and explores emotions towards change. It is a lovely book, often used to prepare children before they meet their adoptive family. It is also a great way to talk about life-story with children and allow them to ask questions about their life-story including time with foster parents. 
  • The day of your arrival – Dolores Brown and Reza Dalvand 
    The day of your arrival is a beautifully illustrated book that explains to children the journey and preparation that their adoptive parents went on before meeting them. It reminds families that initially they experienced different journeys before becoming a forever family and reassures the child that they are secure and loved.
  • The Kites Tale – Molly Ashton

    In her new children’s book, The Kites Tale, author Molly Ashton explores adoption from a birth child’s perspective. The story follows the story of two children, Archie who longs for a sister, and Posy who needs a forever home. The story explains to children the roles of social workers, foster carers and adoption panels and some of the harder issues of adoption such as challenging behaviour and contact with birth family. The story shows the honest realities of adoption in all its complexities especially for children already living in the family home.

  • The Story of Tracy Breaker (and subsequent series) - Jacqueline Wilson

    The Story of Tracey Beaker series by children’s author Jacqueline Wilson explores the life of Tracy and a group of children waiting for forever families and foster families. The majority of children now enter foster care instead of residential homes however, the books explore the realities of children’s experiences coming to an understanding of their early life experiences and navigating life in care. The series often explains the complex emotions and resulting behaviours felt by children in care and their desire for connection and family.

    The Story of Tracy Beaker is part of a five-part series of books: 

     

    • The Story of Tracy Beaker (1991)
    • The Dare Game (2000)
    • Starring Tracy Beaker (2006)
    • My Mum Tracy Beaker (2018)
    • We are the Beaker Girls (2019)
    We would encourage adults to read / watch the stories before considering sharing with their children due to the sensitive nature of the topics discussed. The content may not be suitable for every child and careful planning may be required. The book is aimed at readers 10+ but, like many other Jacqueline Wilson books the age should always be dependent on a child’s emotional capacity and understanding of the sensitive topics involved. 
    The Story of Tracy Beaker series is available as books. The BBC have also adapted ‘The Story of Tracy Beaker’ into a TV series which is available to stream on BBC iPlayer. The BBC also created a spin off series, ‘Tracy Beaker Returns’ in which Tracy becoming an assistant care worker at the home that she grew up in. This is also available to stream on BBC iPlayer. 

     

 

Films and Series for Children / Young People 

We would encourage adults to watch these films and series before sharing them with their children due to the sensitive nature of the topics discussed. The content may not be suitable for every child and therefore each book should be considered based on the individual child’s emotional capacity, life-experiences and understanding / ability to cope with the sensitive topics continued. Careful planning is often required for adoptive children. 

  • Goodnight Mr Tom - Carlton Television

    Based on the 1981 award winning book by Michelle Magorian and set during the Second World War, ‘Goodnight Mr Tom’ is the story of Willie Beech and Tom Oakley’s adjustment to living together. Willie is evacuated from London during the Blitz. The story highlights the adjustment for adults and children to leaving together and the bonds that can be formed. During the film Willie remembers his time with his mother and the film explores his childhood experiences including separation and neglect along with Tom’s experience of having a new child in his life.

    The film can be used to open up discussion around adoption, birth families, trauma, neglect, separation, identity, early life experiences and for conversation about family life together.  

  • Inside Out - Pixar

    When Riley is uprooted from her Midwest life and moves to San Francisco because of her dads new job Riley’s emotions; Joy, Fear, Anger, Disgust and Sadness are thrown into confusion. Riley’s emotions live in ‘Headquarters’ (inside Riley's mind). Although Joy, Riley's primary emotion, tries to keep things positive, the other emotions conflict on how best to navigate her new environment. The film also explores that the adults around her also have emotions that drive their behaviours and actions. This is a great film for creating discussion around emotions and change. 

  • Matilda - TriStar Pictures / Jersey Films

    Mathilda is the story of a girl who suffers emotional and physical neglect and verbal abuse from her birth family. Mathilda meets characters through the story who shape her understanding of the world around her. The story also talks about Miss Honey, Mathilda’s teacher’s relationship with her aunt after the loss of her father. This film can open up discussions around some of the reasons children are placed for adoption, their negative early life experiences and how your past doesn’t have to define your future.

  • The Story of Tracy Breaker – BBC iPlayer 

    The full series of ‘The Story of Tracy Beaker’ is now available to stream on BBC iPlayer. The series explore the life of a group of children waiting for forever families and foster families. The follow up series ‘Tracy Beaker Returns’ is also available. In this series Tracy becoming an assistant care worker at the home that she grew up in. 

    The majority of children now enter foster care instead of residential homes however, the program explores the realities of children’s experiences coming to an understanding of their early life experiences and navigating life in care. The series often explains the complex emotions and resulting behaviours felt by children in care and their desire for connection and family. 

  • Dustbin Baby – BBC iPlayer

    Dustbin Baby written by children’s author Jacqueline Wilson follows the story of April, a fourteen-year-old girl who was abandoned by her mother at birth. The story centres around April’s fourteenth birthday. After an argument with her foster mother, Marion April makes a spur of the moment decision to explore her life-story by revisiting the places and people who have been significant in her life. She starts by visiting her foster carer, which leads her to remembering her adoptive placement (which had a tragic ending) and her subsequent years living in care; including living with multiple foster carers and in residential homes / schools. The final place April explores is the place of her birth, a back alley behind a Pizzeria and this leads her to meet the man who discovered her in the Dustbin fourteen years previously. A dual narrative unfolds throughout the storyline as Marion also explores her own experiences and feelings as a foster parent throughout the day while she tries to find April. 

    The story is highly poignant for children and adults alike as it unpacks experiences of care, exploring life-story and the challenges and joys of relationships along the way.  

    We would encourage adults to read / watch the story before considering sharing with their children due to the sensitive nature of the topics discussed. The content may not be suitable for every child and careful planning may be required. The book is aimed at readers 10+ but, like many other Jacqueline Wilson books the age should always be dependent on a child’s emotional capacity and understanding of the sensitive topics involved. 

    Dustbin Baby is available as a book and the BBC made a film adaptation of the book in 2008 which can be found on BBC iPlayer. 

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